Sticks & Stones can BREAK my bones,
But your WORDS will never hurt me
We used to sing this little rhyme at school, but now well into adulthood I have begun to realize that WORDS can hurt, damage and slowly torture you well past physical scars…
You can spend years with an emotional abusive partner and start to believe all their let-downs are true.
You start believing that you are Stupid or Ugly or Fat or a Slut or .. or .. or ..
Walking away from an abusive relationship is difficult when children are involved. But being aware how this emotional abuse will affect your children is very important – FOR BOTH PARENTS.
1- If the abuser begins to vent his insecurities on the children – this can harm them for many years – ways that are not clearly evident as they are young but will begin changing how they see themselves, the world and everything else around them.
Emotional Abuse on a child CAN HURT AS MUCH AS PHYSICAL ABUSE
2- How relationships should be, is learnt by children by viewing how their parents, primarily, are together. Depending on the type of emotional abuse, children will think it’s normal later on or even with their friends at school to act the same way.
CHILDREN LEARN THROUGH IMITATION
EMOTIONAL ABUSE is not always easy to see.
I was in an emotionally abusive relationship for many years without ever knowing. Now looking back, I saw many signs or hints but just ignored them or brushed them away. My friends and family would drop comments or hints – but I was always defensive and didn’t understand how they could be so blind.
I was the one that was blind.
If you feel that your friend is in an emotional abusive relationship – they will shut you out at first. If you love them don’t stop trying to help.
Check out this 21 signs that you could be in such a relationship – and PLEASE reach out for help.
Talk to someone about it.
Don’t let this break you.
Especially as a SUPER MOM it is your responsibility to be the strong, vibrant and happy example for your children.
Psychological abuse can look like: (taken from PSYCH CENTRAL)
- Humiliating or embarrassing you.
- Constant put-downs.
- Refusing to communicate.
- Ignoring or excluding you.
- Extramarital affairs.
- Provocative behavior with opposite sex.
- Use of sarcasm and unpleasant tone of voice.
- Unreasonable jealousy.
- Extreme moodiness.
- Mean jokes or constantly making fun of you.
- Saying “I love you but…”
- Saying things like “If you don’t _____, I will_____.”
- Domination and control.
- Withdrawal of affection.
- Guilt trips.
- Making everything your fault.
- Isolating you from friends and family.
- Using money to control.
- Constant calling or texting when you are not with him/her.
- Threatening to commit suicide if you leave.
DIVORCE & BEING A MOM: http://www.supermamalb.com/divorce-and-a-super-mommy/
HOW TO BE THE “PERFECT” MOM: http://www.supermamalb.com/how-to-be-the-perfect-mom